Oh, Boomer, how did this come to pass?

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The New Year has retched up another miserable milestone. Today is my sixtieth birthday. Oh, Boomer, how did this come to pass?

Once I had hopes and dreams as fresh and frisky as Labrador puppies and a lime green sports car so sickeningly ostentatious that bystanders flicked V signs at me as I drove past them or spat on the car bonnet when I stopped at pedestrian crossings.

What Bliss was it in that dawn to be spat at, and to be young was very heaven!

Now, I don’t give a tinker’s cuss for cars, let alone sports cars, and I especially dislike anything lime green unless it’s a fruit sliced and lounging in my glass of gin and tonic.

I am nothing more than a non-vintage wine passing its drink-by date, pale and unnoticed.  From this day forth, the only things I can be certain of are that my prostrate will swell and the purchasing power of my pension will shrink.

A nine-course tasting menu

I can’t even go out tonight to drown my sorrows in a bath of wine and a nine-course tasting menu because no restaurants are properly open in this nowhere-to-go-or-anything-to-do-because-of-fucking-Covid-world.

I decide the only sensible thing to do now that I am sixty is to hide under my duvet for a fortnight. This will give me enough time to acclimatise to the fact that I now qualify for a free bus pass. 

It’s 09.00 on my birthday

I peak out from under the duvet feeling a little better from my inner whinging, like a monk after Matins. The bedside clock says it’s 09.00am.

‘Happy Birthday,’ says my wife, parking a birthday brew on the bedside table.

‘Whatever.’

‘Coming downstairs?

‘No. I’m staying in bed for a fortnight to think about my Freedom Bus Pass.’

‘But we’re waiting for you to come open your presents.’

‘I’m not worthy,’ I say.

‘I know,’ she replies.

I am not sure if she is serious. Her tone is bone dry and flat, like the Black Rock desert where they set land speed records.

‘Why are you doing this?’ she asks.

I want to become a piece of conceptual art

‘I’m turning my bed and me into a piece of conceptual art.’

‘Like Tracey Emin?’ 

‘Exactly.’

She shakes her head.

‘Tell me this is one of your man-child traumas quickly or I’m going to have you sectioned,’ she says.

‘You can’t know how tough it is being a sixty year old man. Just like that, overnight.’ I snap my fingers. ‘I’m having to face up to some serious existential questions.’

‘Like what to watch on Netflix tonight?’ 

‘Like ‘What am I Going to Do With Myself for the Next Ten Years?’’

I lean back onto the pillows and moan softly hoping to add a little manly pathos to the situation.

‘If you’re not downstairs in ten minutes, the mushrooms go into the bin,’ she threatens.

‘Mushrooms?’ I say, lifting the pillow from my face.

Mushrooms for breakfast

She’s cooked me mushrooms. I adore mushrooms but the rest of the family would rather have a holiday in Chernobyl than eat or cook them. If my wife has cooked me mushrooms, she’s taking my sixtieth birthday very seriously. If so, who knows how much she’s spent on my presents. I begin to salivate.

‘In butter and chopped parsley?’ I ask, hesitatingly.  

Something flashes across her face and freezes into a momentary rictus.

‘No oil. Just parsley. Butter. Garlic.’

I leap out of bed and give her a hug. The smell of bacon and coffee floats into the bedroom. Things are looking up.

‘You’re a Goddess,’ I say, pulling on my trousers.

‘Ten minutes,’ she says, leaving.  

The pile of birthday presents is encouraging

Downstairs, the breakfast table has a small but encouragingly well wrapped pile of presents on it. There’s toast, sausages, bacon and a bowl of slowly scrambled eggs, pleats of egg folded like large, orange-coloured napkins. The children look bright as buttons. My God. They’ve actually gone and bathed for the occasion!

‘Happy birthday, Dad,’ say the kids and hand me a present.

‘What’s this?’ I say looking at a book shaped present.

‘A book obviously,’ says my daughter. ‘Are you dumb or something?’

I strip the wrapper away. Underneath it is a book is called OK Boomer: Let’s Talk’. The book is subtitled is ‘How My generation got left behind’.

‘What’s this about?’

‘You know how you’re always irritating us by calling us Snowflakes?’ says my daughter.

‘Sort of,’ I say.

‘Well, this book will tell you why you should stop.’ 

‘And why you are wrong about everything,’ says my son.

‘But it will also show you how you can still be a better person, if you really want to be,’ says my daughter.

‘Though we realise it will be hard for you to change your tune now that you are so old. You know, like an old dog learning new tricks,’ says my son. 

My anger rises like King Arthur

The Lime Green Sports Car Man within me that I thought was dead stirs to life, like King Arthur summoned to save his Kingdom.  

I’m about to tell them I am working on a book which also hopes to solve inter-generational conflict which is called: ‘Shut Up Snowflake’ and is subtitled ‘I’m Too Busy Playing Golf to Give a Toss’.

But just as I am about to open fire, my wife arrives at the table with a pan of finely sliced mushrooms, sizzling in garlic butter and sprinkled with chopped parsley.

As she pours them onto the brown toast next to my sausages and scrambled eggs, I realise that I must act my age. I’m too old to get suckered into an inter-generational scrap. (At this time of the morning, at any rate). I will ignore their taunts and embrace my inner Biden, not my inner Trump. I must build unity, not division. Most of all, I must eat the mushrooms quickly before they go cold and spongy.

I decide to embrace my inner Biden

‘Good?’ asks my wife, as I finish wiping specks of parsley and butter from my chin, three greedy minutes later.

‘Best breakfast in sixty years.’

The children groan.

‘Half an hour ago, I had nothing left to look forward to. Now, I’ve got a belly full of fungi and several sausages. Things are looking up. I think sixty could be the new fifty,’ I say.

‘Good,’ says my wife. ‘Because the kids have made you a birthday cake with a special message just for you.’

The kids put a cake on the table with an iced message on it.

The message says: ‘You’re 60. Get over it.’

This blog originally appeared in the Chiswick Calendar

Published by Man in the Middle

This is the diary of a man balancing the needs of his aged Mother and family as they struggle with multi-generational living. It's about what happens to your life when your Mother moves in.

2 thoughts on “Oh, Boomer, how did this come to pass?

  1. One of your finest!

    …..the problem with children is they have that tendency to take after their parents. Who’d have thought it after being locked up in a confined space with said parents for 18 years. Perhaps we can set up a new e-platform where one can trade one’s children either on a long term or short term basis. It could be a bit like hiring out ones dog for walks…. if you had some particularly agreeable children you could hire them out for sensitive occasions like 60th birthdays.

    (& Happy Birthday!?)

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